Have you ever found yourself in a position where if feels like you’ve drifted so far from someone you use to be really close with? You think about all the past memories you’ve had together and can’t quite wrap your mind around how you’ve suddenly become mere acquaintances or even worse, strangers. Well you’re not alone. 

One thing i’ve learnt over time is how important communication is in any relationship. Sometimes it feels like it’s easier to deal with a relationship that turned sour after a disagreement/fight than the one that just dies off from lack of communication. It’s important that you communicate with people so you understand the position you hold in their life. What brings us hurt a lot of the time is when we over estimate our importance or place in someone’s life. You’re surprised why you’re receiving such treatment from them, not realising that a lot has changed during those few weeks or months of inadequate communication. 

Sometimes it’s not your fault, the person might have changed and sometimes you’re not innocent of the blame as well. Just like plants, relationships are meant to be nurtured. A plant not adequately nurtured and watered will die eventually. When a relationship means something to you, you ideally would make conscious effort to build and nurture it. Closeness in relationships doesn’t happen in a day, it’s built over time. 

I had a friend that suddenly became distant from me. When i confronted the situation with them, they said they felt they were the only one constantly reaching out and didn’t see any reciprocation. I’ll admit that i was guilty as charged as I had a lot going on in my life at that time and was only open to let few people in on that aspect of my life. This created a communication gap and hence the feeling of being distant. 

The example is to help you understand that before you blame the other person, you might want to examine your disposition towards them and sincerely check if you’re probably at fault too. This applies to all forms of relationships.